Fri | Oct 23, 2020

How to help drivers build their self-esteem

Published:Sunday | August 30, 2020 | 12:53 AMPaul Glenroy Messam - Contributor

When you observe yourself in a mirror, what do you see? Do you see a person you like? Do you see someone with talents and good qualities you appreciate and whose shortcomings you have learned to appreciate? How do you see yourself? Are you a safe driver? Do you believe you are successful? How do you relate to your co-workers in the motoring world?

Self-esteem is the bedrock of a positive attitude towards living. It is important as it affects how you think, act, and even how you relate to other persons. It affects your potential to be successful. Low self-esteem means poor confidence and also causes negative thoughts, which means that you are likely to give up easily rather than facing the challenges. Self-esteem has a direct correlation to your happiness and well-being. Studies have shown that people with self-confidence and good self-esteem tend to be happier in general. High self-esteem means you are confident, happy, highly motivated, and have the right attitude to succeed.

Self-esteem is how a person feels about himself or herself. Your self-esteem is threatened when someone puts you down or criticises you. Nathaniel Brandon, a noted writer on the subject, posits that self-esteem is the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. He notes that positive self-esteem is the immune system of the spirit, which helps an individual “to face life problems and be resilient from adversity”.

BEST PRACTICES

Racquel McCarthy, counselling psychologist, recommends some best practices that can help build drivers’ self-esteem so they will become confident in today’s auto world.

1. Think positively and practically. It will bring positive outcomes.

2. Keep the mind filled with things that elevate one’s persona. If you look at negative things, your mind will be cluttered with garbage.

3. Practice complimenting other individuals, but not in a ‘flattery’ way.

4. Examine carefully what you have been doing and what you need to do, and try again.

6. Look at your strengths and weaknesses. Do not dwell on your weaknesses, but celebrate your strengths. Focus on your achievements.

7. Learn to forgive yourself, and hold no grudges against anyone.

8. Do not be overly defensive without questioning.

9. Be open in communicating your needs.

10. Focus on who you are and what you like about yourself.

11. Smile as you learn relaxation skills.

Dr Valerie Freckleton, consultant psychologist, reminds our drivers:

1. Find the time to do things that make use of your own talents and abilities.

2. Dress appropriately in clothes that make you feel and look splendid.

3. Reward yourself and find some time to spend with individuals who will make you feel good about yourself.

4. A sense of humour can keep minor situations from becoming serious problems. Do not take things too seriously as if there is no tomorrow. Look for the humorous side of things and the brighter side of life.