The overlooked power of conversation

In an age where conflicts turn into lawsuits, friendships dissolve over text messages, and families drift apart due to unspoken grievances, it seems we have forgotten the most powerful tool at our disposal: a conversation.

Today, people prefer quick, logical, or legal resolutions to problems rather than sitting down and talking things through.

We assume, we react, we cut people off – all while the simplest, most effective solution remains unused.

But why do we fear conversations when they could provide the clarity, closure, and peace we desperately seek?

Throughout history, some of the greatest conflicts have been resolved through dialogue. Nations at war have negotiated peace treaties, civil rights leaders have changed societies through discourse, and families have mended broken relationships by simply talking.

Yet, in our personal lives, we often avoid the very thing that could resolve our misunderstandings. We file complaints instead of seeking understanding. We ghost people instead of explaining our feelings. We make assumptions instead of asking questions.

Imagine if, before taking drastic action, people chose conversation first. If colleagues discussed their differences before workplace tensions escalated. If friends sat down and shared their feelings instead of drifting apart. If families addressed their issues rather than allowing years of silence to replace love. How many broken relationships could be restored? How much unnecessary pain could be avoided?

Despite its power, conversation is often ignored because it demands something uncomfortable – vulnerability. It requires us to set aside our pride, face difficult truths, and listen with an open heart. And that is hard.

In today’s digital world, avoiding conversations has become even easier. Instead of working through problems, people unfollow, block, or post cryptic social media messages, hoping the other person gets the hint. Instead of seeking clarity, they assume the worst. This only deepens resentment and widens gaps that could have been easily closed with a simple conversation.

UNDERSTANDING

A real conversation is not about proving a point or winning an argument – it is about understanding. It’s about being willing to say, “Help me see your perspective”. It’s about listening to someone’s truth, even when it is uncomfortable.

When we take the time to talk, we realize that the people we’re upset with are not villains but human beings with their own emotions, experiences, and reasons for acting the way they do. Conversation creates space for empathy. And empathy creates solutions.

Before making assumptions, try asking questions. Before choosing silence, try talking. Before giving up on a relationship, try understanding.

The next time you find yourself in conflict, pause and ask: “Have I actually had a conversation about this?” If the answer is no, then perhaps the solution is simpler than you think.

Because in the end, conversation is more than just words exchanged – it is relationships restored, wounds healed, and bridges rebuilt. It’s the most underrated solution in the world, and it’s time we start using it again.

Leroy Fearon is the Acting Dean, Faculty of Education, The Mico University College, author and researcher. Email feedback to: leroyfearon85@gmail.com and editorial@gleanerjm.com