Love: Freedom from the wounded childhood

In a world shaped by comparison, competition, and constant expectations, many of us carry invisible wounds from childhood. These wounds quietly shape our beliefs, choices, and relationships. Childhood traumas settle deep within a tender heart that did not yet know how to question, filter, or heal.

Over time, we grow into adults, but parts of us remain stuck at an age where love felt missing, conditional, or uncertain. Time is asking us to turn inwards and begin the gentle process of reparenting ourselves.

ROOTS OF HIDDEN WOUNDS

Childhood wounds arise from emotional absence, comparison between siblings or other children, high expectations, physical and verbal abuse, or the need to change oneself to gain approval. Some missed the warmth of one/both parents while others longed for understanding, imposed beliefs contradicting the child’s natural awareness, silent criticism, or dislike.

At that tender age, a child does not know how to protect the heart. These impressions quietly become the foundation of identity. As adults, we may notice fear of judgement, abandonment, insecurity, a constant need to perform and influence others, etc. Is it not a sign that the inner foundation needs attention and healing?

BECOMING THE PARENT YOU NEEDED

Peace cannot reside in a wounded heart. When we recognise that our default identity is shaped by old scars, it becomes essential to lovingly revisit our inner story. Reparenting means offering ourselves what was once missing – healthy attention, appreciation, reassurance, trust, encouragement, time, and unconditional love.

This process begins with releasing blaming parents or circumstances and taking responsibility for healing now. When we begin to nurture ourselves, we start feeling safer within. Gradually, the armour we have worn for years begins to soften. Vulnerability no longer feels like weakness. We stop trying to impress the world with achievements or intelligence and choose authenticity over approval.

LOVE BRINGS YOU BACK TO INNOCENCE

When love nurtures, we do not become better adults – we become children again. Women reconnect with the little girl within, and men rediscover the curious, playful boy. This childlike state is not immaturity. It is innocence, purity, and grounded joy.

In this space, fear of judgement and shame fade because we are no longer performing. Even if we feel messy or imperfect, authenticity becomes our strength. We celebrate our uniqueness, our quirks, our innate nature. Life becomes lighter as we enjoy simple moments, laughter, and quiet contentment.

Love is the only healing force that works regardless of how deep or old the wound is – but it must first arise within. Learn to love yourself the way the Divine loves you. As we reparent ourselves with the enriching energy of love, we naturally inspire others to do the same.

Courtesy: Rajyoga Meditation Centre, Kingston (meditation courses and counselling are offered free of charge). Get in touch via email: bkmeditation.jam@gmail.com or WhatsApp: 876-853-7848. Follow them on Instagram: rajyoga_meditation_jamaica